Do you think I'm being self centered?

You are VERY right to be angry and upset. There are so many red flags going up right now. If she's already putting her daughter before you before you're even married, it will continue to happen after you're married. That's the trouble with getting involved with someone who already has a child. They had the child with one person, the father was booted from the picture for whatever reason, so there's no way any other man will ever be top priority ever again unless the mother chooses it to be. Sounds like she's not choosing to allow you and your potential marriage to be at the top of her list.. Its her and the child and everyone else comes second. You need to seriously consider if that's the kind of life you want to lead. Do you want to be with a woman who values her husband and her marriage LESS than she values her child? Not only that, do you want to be with a woman who puts so much value on materialistic things? A "Wii" is more important than getting married?! Is she serious?! Sounds like she doesn't really want to get married. The first time you do something that doesn't mesh well with her and her child, you'll be booted too.